Love & Sex Advice

How will I know when I've met the right person?
There's no right person, so stop worrying about it. The truth is, most of us won't just meet one person and stay with them for life, but three or four serious lovers. Each of those people will have been right for us at that time, so relax.


Why am I single? What's wrong with me?
Some people are used to 'needy' relationships. They want someone to do all the things they should be doing for themselves someone to entertain, financially support and nurture them. If this is you, try dating yourself. Treat yourself the way an adoring partner would: spoil, pamper, encourage and motivate yourself. Just when you decide you don't need a man, you'll be flooded with offers.


Why can't I have an orgasm?
Probably because you've never masturbated or used a vibrator. Orgasm for women is complicated. This is why you need to do it yourself initially. Assuming your partner will teach you to orgasm is about as hopeful as standing outside Buckingham Palace waiting for Prince William to notice you. Masturbating with your fingers will do the job, but if you're inexperienced, reach for a vibrator first.


How can I tell if he's over his ex?
Pay attention to your gut reaction research has shown women are usually right when it comes to spotting unfinished business. If you're worried, confront him and ask for reassurance. If it appears he's just still healing but truly does want to be with you, take a leap of faith. We'd all love it if our partners had never loved anyone but us. Sadly, it's virtually never the case.


Am I a prude for not wanting to do kinky things?
Everyone's definitions of 'prude' and 'kinky' are different. So your partner isn't strange for suggesting something you find outrageous, it just means his attitude to sex is different to yours. Most of us are lazy sexually and it doesn't hurt to push our boundaries a little. You never know, you might just like it.


Why am I climbing the walls for sex when I'm single, then go off it when I'm in a relationship? Because we're all human and fickle and because we gorge ourselves in the early stages of a relationship, then tend to follow it with a sexual starvation regime. Early sex is fuelled by passion, while long-term sex is fuelled by technique, imagination and effort. While it's not possible to have great sex all the time, it is possible to have good, satisfying sex most of the time. If you're not and you truly do put in the effort, chances are you're picking the wrong men.


He cheated on me once, but I've given him another chance. Am I right to trust him again?
Probably not and most definitely not if he's got a history of being unfaithful and being forgiven. If he hasn't a history of cheating, it's early in the relationship and this was a one-off incident with seemingly genuine reasons to explain it, hang in there but only if he appears to be more upset about the betrayal than you are.


I'm in love with a married man. Will he leave his wife for me?
It's unlikely and, even if he does, it probably won't work out long term. He might tell you he's torn, but the stark reality is 44% of men who have extramarital sex report slight or no emotional involvement. What do you give him that she doesn't? If it's something truly important and not just great fellatio, you might have a chance.


How important is it to feel chemistry with a partner?
If you want a passionate, intense relationship, it's crucial. If the words 'being content' make you feel warm and fuzzy, it's not so important. It's perfectly possible to 'click' with someone without ever feeling 'chemistry' with that person; and controlled, 'sensible' relationships suit lots of people. If, however, you're after a deeper emotional and sexual experience, by all means go for the person you want to instantly swap souls and salvia with. Chemistry won't guarantee you lifetime love, but it's a good start.


Is it wrong to sleep with a man on the first night if you want more than a one-night stand?
It's not wrong, but it's risky. If you want to up your chances of the relationship being healthy and lasting the distance, do the opposite try to put off having full sex for as long as possible. Not because 'good girls don't', but because you're creating the best possible circumstances for the two of you to bond physically and emotionally.


Okay, now after we all have read this article, so we both can learn as many useful things as possible. For women, they can at least use it in order to win with their superheroes.. For us, men, we can now strike back.

It's a lovely article by glamour..

I wonder if I could be allowed to apply these theories, or whatever you will call them. We'll see in near future!